My Pancake Addiction
A private support community.
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Pancake focuses on promoting kindness towards ourselves and others.
Features include forums, media galleries, chatrooms, direct messages, profile pages, statuses, groups, resources, tagging, 18+ limited threads, & more.
For privacy reasons, new members have limited access temporarily.
Who we are...

Rules

Who We Are
  1. Welcome to Pancake!
    We are a support website for those that struggle with eating disorders. Pancake is here to offer a safe and supportive environment for anyone in their life who has struggled with an eating disorder. We welcome individuals from all different walks of life to Pancake with the hope that having a safe environment for them to express themselves will help with one of the most dangerous parts of having an eating disorder: isolation. Being able to freely talk about your struggles with other people can be life saving. The stigma of eating disorders makes it a secret battle that you can't tell anyone about... and we want to help keep people from losing their mental battles.
  2. We encourage a friendly and supportive environment.
    Members are expected to support each other, not tear down one another. We do not welcome any kind of intolerant attitudes or judgmental treatment. We encourage positive and constructive discussion and interactions rather than arguing, belittling, or invalidating others experiences. Roasting newbies, disrespectfully criticizing others methods of coping with their ED, or making judgement calls is not what we're about. Everyone is struggling in their own way.
  3. We try our best to make Pancake a safe space.
    If you don't support the idea of a 'safe space', Pancake is not for you. The Internet may be big and scary but we at least try to make Pancake a home for members to come to. Privacy is of the upmost importance and extensively personal content on Pancake is unlocked based on whether or not visitors take the time to become part of the community. This helps us prevent predators, malicious individuals, and media outlets from skimming our forums looking to take advantage of our members who are here to express their vulnerabilities.
  4. We encourage recovery and are pro harm reduction.
    We allow members to express how they cope with their ED freely; overall our message is that of hope for recovery and a belief that even if recovery isn't possible right now we can try to do as little damage to our health as we can. If you're uncomfortable with hearing about the dark side of eating disorders, we have features that allow members to block entire forums and threads that may be triggering or distressing for them to read. If you're looking for a 'Pro-ED site', this isn't that, but you are still welcome to join us.
    Rules last updated: 1/20/2021
General Rules
  1. 1. Attitudes towards others should be respectful.
    We are here to support one another, not tear each other down. Abuse of any kind is not tolerated. This includes name calling, insulting, and attacking others. This also includes hate speech, bigotry, or prejudice towards any group of people. Insulting a race, culture, sexuality, gender etc of another person is not tolerated.

    This also includes attacking others for their body shape or size, unless the original poster asks for 'mean critique'. Do not body shame anyone whether they are overweight, underweight, or somewhere in between. This includes members, random pictures of people, someone you know, or celebrities. Reverse thinspiration is considered a form of body shaming and is not allowed.

    Do not question whether or not someone has an eating disorder. Do not try to argue against someone having any kind of disorder or mental illness. Nobody here is qualified to make assessments. Do not judge another person’s disorder. This means do not make posts like "Ana VS EDNOS: Which is worse?", or talking about "Real Ana" vs "Fake Ana", or "I hate people with [Disorder]".

    Swearing is allowed, but slurs are not. It is never okay to use swearing to intimidate or insult another member.
  2. 2. Communicate appropriately and respectfully.
    If there is a post you disagree with or simply dislike, either express yourself in a polite manner or ignore it. A hostile environment is not tolerated.

    This includes hazing of new members -- do not reply with inside jokes, invalidating them, or making fun of them for their inherent newness. BE SUPPORTIVE. Even if you don't like people asking questions or asking for tips, do not haze them or belittle them for it.
  3. 3. We follow a strict no-drama policy.
    Do not single out or bully other members. Do not call members out, target them, or attack them. Do not reference other members if it is to insult, abuse or belittle them ANYWHERE. Do not make threads or posts or send mass DMs about the conduct of other members. If you are concerned about another member’s conduct, either press the report button or contact a Staff member.

    There is a block feature. Please use it! Bypassing a block to continue to harass a member could lead to warning points or a ban depending on the situation.

    Do not argue over personal matters on the forums. Do not dig up drama from the past and try to incite discussion about drama, even if you weren't involved. "Vagueposting" aka posting vaguely about fellow members of Pancake is not allowed (example: 'There's this user on Pancake who is really annoying...')
  4. 4. Trolling is not allowed.
    Do not troll other members or intentionally go out of your way to make other people upset.

    Do not make multiple accounts so you can harass or troll other members freely. Do not evade bans. Any alternate accounts that are associated with a banned account will also be banned.
  5. 5. Do not spam or bump excessively.
    Do not excessively promote your social media accounts. It's okay to seek out friends, but trying to get more views or followers on your content for the sake of views or followers is not allowed.

    Keep responses to threads relevant to the starting subject. Do not spam multiple images in a row -- you can insert multiple images into one post. Utilize the edit feature if you forgot to say something in a post, rather than reply.

    Do not necrobump old, irrelevant and outdated topics. Start new discussions when you can. Do not bump your threads excessively, for example once every 30 minutes.

    Do not post the same topic in multiple forums.

    Farming for likes, AKA asking for people to like your content in order to boost your stats, is not allowed.
  6. 6. Do not ask for anything illegal or do monetary transactions for goods.
    Do not ask for anything illegal. This includes drugs, illegal streaming websites, piracy downloads, or prostitution.

    Predators seeking out underage members will be banned. Predators soliciting members for sexual favors through our platform will be banned.

    Advocating for or condoning pedophilia, sexual assault, CSA, real life violence or murder is not welcome.

    We allow Pancakers to donate and support each other out of goodwill. If transactions are made between members, please handle all transaction matters off-site. Do not use Pancake to promote a product you did not create (i.e. sponsored promotion for dietary supplements, etc). Pancake is not liable for any transactions you have made with other members and will not get involved in financial disputes.

    Please keep advertising for sales, commissions, services, shops, or monetized content to The Kitchen. Linking in your signature or profile is allowed as well. Unsolicited advertising is strictly prohibited.
  7. 7. Protect your own privacy as well as others.
    Avoid posting contact details, such as snapchat usernames, phone numbers, discord handles, or email addresses directly on the forum. If you choose to share it via DMs, be very careful who you share it with! This is for your own safety! Staff will remove publicly posted contact details at our discretion.

    Be careful what images you share, whether it be of yourself or family members or your children. Protect your own identity as well as the identity of your family, friends and children.

    If you choose to post nudity, you may only post it in an 18+ prefixed thread under a spoiler with a warning, ONLY IF YOU ARE 18 OR OLDER. Underage users may not post pictures of themselves in underwear/bikinis. Outside of 18+ threads, pictures must be censored with intimate areas completely covered. Exposed genitalia is NEVER allowed.

    Because we have the 18+ prefixes, it's important that all underage members register with their REAL AGE. If we find out you are underage and have registered as 18+, you will be immediately banned. If you accidentally put in the wrong year, please contact @Anamanaguchi to have it fixed.

    Do not share links to other member's social media or disclose contact details. This information is for member's to share if they wish to do so. This includes Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Tumblr, Tiktok, Discord, etc.

    Doxxing is not allowed. Do not publicly post another member's real full name, address, phone number, or other identifying real life information.

    If you choose to delete your account at any time, you are free to do so. Please read this thread for more information.

    Per our terms of service, sharing screenshots or original content from Pancake to other platforms is not okay without the total consent of the individuals involved. The ability to post on Pancake without fear is critical to the purpose of Pancake, and so any sharing of content from Pancake for the purpose of criticism, entertainment, commentary, or education will result in an immediate and permanent ban and possibly legal consequences depending on severity.

    The privacy of our members is of the utmost importance. As a result, we do not allow unauthorized requests for research data on the forum. If you wish you use the community as a sample for data for an article, thesis, essay, etc please email us at [email protected]
Behavioral Policies
  1. Handling Reports
    Pancake strives to be a place where members can thrive, be peaceful, and not fear being who they are. In order to do this, we utilize reports, which flags content that is either in violation of our rules or makes a member or a group of members uncomfortable. This document outlines in detail how reports are handled, reportable and non-reportable content, and, briefly, our privacy policy regarding reports.

    Reports

    Content Within Our Jurisdiction
    • Any content on My Pancake Addiction [MPA] including posts, status messages, conversations, chats, media, or blogs) that you feel is in violation of the rules of MPA regardless of their status on site.
    • Any content that contributes to a hostile environment

    Content within Outside of Our Jurisdiction
    • Anything that takes place outside of MPA (other sites, emails, IMs, discord, etc.), BARRING if someone is endangered or original Content has been posted elsewhere without consent.


    The Report System

    Filing a Report
    • There is a Report button located at the bottom of everything posted on MPA. When coming across reportable content, click there.
    • A small window will pop up once you do. There, you can explain why you feel this post should be brought to the Staff's attention.
    • Once a Report is Filed, the Staff are notified. The problem at hand is discussed and then addressed.
    • Reporting helps so don't be afraid to do it!

    Once the Report is Filed
    • Involvement of the one Filing the report is over. The Staff will contact the one making the Report if further information is needed.
    • The Staff will not discuss how issues are addressed with outside parties except in special cases.
    • Staff will decide what to do. It might appear that nothing is happening, but we try to communicate with members who are reported to help Pancakers learn from their mistakes. We focus on improving communication and helping members understand the situation better so it can be avoided in the future. Warning Points are given only when users are actively or excessively harmful despite prior conversation.

    Abuse of the Report System
    The following actions are considered to be abuse of the report system
    • Repeatedly reporting the same content due to not being satisfied with the result.
    • Using the report system to harass another member.
    • Using the report system to deceive staff regarding a situation.
    • Using the report system to berate, criticize, or attack the staff team.

    Reporting Staff
    The Staff Team is not exempt from being held accountable for their actions. If a Staff member posts content you feel should be reported, Direct Message @anamanaguchi.

    Alternative methods

    PMing the staff
    In situations where the member feels the need to provide more information than the report or wishes for confidentiality there are alternative methods of bringing content to the staff's attention. Private Letters to Staff
    You may write a letter to Staff for any reason thru the Private Letters to Staff. Please keep your thread title vague, due to privacy concerns.
  2. Warning Policy

    The Pancake staff team will make our best effort to address issues within the community in a timely and respectful fashion. Any and all member reports will be fully investigated to determine the extent of the situation and warnings issued as necessary.

    Warn Meter
    Each member at MPA has a Warn Meter on their account that can be filled with Points. This always starts at zero (0) Points and will be bumped up as necessary as a response to rule infringement or other anti-community behavior. The Warn Meter can go up to a maximum of three (3) Points, at which point the member will be issued a ban.



    You can have see how many Warning Points you've received and why on your profile page. Nobody can see your Warning Points except for Staff.

    Friendly Reminders
    Members are usually granted a 'friendly reminder' to inform them that they are breaking a rule in an effort to prevent it from happening in the future. These do not give them a Warning Point and ultimately have no permanent effect on a member’s record, though they are taken into account if the member continues to break the rules. Depending on the severity of the circumstances, a Friendly Reminder may not be given before a Warning Point is issued.

    Issuing Warnings
    Depending on the severity of the infraction, the Warn Meter will be bumped up anywhere from one (1) to three (3) times.

    When issuing Warning Points, multiple Staff members are involved in the process to ensure that Warning Points are fairly administered.

    A Warned member’s Points amount will begin to decrease after three (3) months of continuously good behavior from the date they received the Warning Point.

    Sanctions
    Once three (3) Warning Points are reached and the Warn Meter is full, the Warned Member is automatically banned for one (1) month.

    In certain cases the staff team may increase the severity of sanctions based on the severity of rule violations.

    Issuing Forum Bans
    In the unlikely event that a member has repeat infractions to the rules or refuses to correct their behavior, the Staff may collectively elect to issue a permanent ban to that member. Bans will be addressed on a case-by-case basis as they are meant to be the most severe sanction used when all other options are exhausted.

    Other Reasons for Banning
    In circumstances where being on Pancake itself is actively endangering an individuals life, Staff may collectively elect to issue a temporary or permanent ban. This is only done in the most dire of circumstances and the goal is for such an individual to seek real life support.

    We will ban anyone who behaves in a way that threatens the safety of the community.

    Banning Frequency
    We rarely issue bans unless we believe it is our only option to protect the community. You can read a list of our bans in this thread. We try to maintain transparency regarding our bans, but sometimes details aren't publicly for the mental health of our community. If you have questions about any Bans past or future, please contact the Staff.

  3. Discrimination, Harassment, and Hate Speech Policy

    All members on MPA have the right to respectful treatment and equality, regardless of age, gender, race, nationality, disability, religion, sexual orientation and identification, or economic background.

    These are the official definitions for Discrimination, Harassment, and Hate Speech:

    Discrimination refers to the treatment or consideration of, or making a distinction in favor of or against, a person or thing based on the group, class, or category to which that person or thing belongs rather than on individual merit.

    Harassment is unwanted, un-welcomed and uninvited behavior that demeans, threatens or offends the victim and results in a hostile environment for the victim. Harassing behavior may include, but is not limited to, epithets, derogatory comments or slurs, lewd propositions, assault, blocking movement, and visual insults such as derogatory memes, graphics or art.

    Hate speech is a communication that carries no meaning other than the expression of hatred for some group, especially in circumstances in which the communication is likely to provoke violence. It is an incitement to hatred primarily against a group of persons defined in terms of race, ethnicity, national origin, gender, religion, sexual orientation, and the like.

    How these relate to our policy here on MPA:

    • Harassment - Deliberate or continued unwanted contact with an individual via threads, conversations, status messages, tagging, passive aggressive remarks, baiting, or signature messages; especially if the individual has expressed a desire to be left alone. Stalking behaviors also indicate harassment.

    • Discrimination - Actively discouraging or actively blocking the participation of others within threads or in any area of the site, based on based on the person's group, class, or category to which that person does or does not belong.

    • Hate Speech - We define hate speech to mean communication that vilifies a person or a group based on discrimination against that person or group. "Minorities are the cause of all our problems." is considered hate speech. "White people can't dance." is not.

    It is the duty of every member on MPA to create an environment free of deliberate discrimination, harassment, and hate speech. Members who believe that a post, status update, or a blog is in violation of this should immediately report it. Members should not attempt to engage with an offensive poster. This behavior will not be tolerated and will be promptly investigated.